Young men & women narrators

Consent is the most important part of sex, because without consent, it isn’t sex.

It’s rape or sexual assault.

You and your partner must agree that you both want to have sex.

Both of you have to be completely up for it.

You can’t bully, trick, threaten or pressure someone into consenting.

And if someone’s drunk, asleep or passed out ...

... They can’t legally give consent at all.

You need to get consent every time you have sex. None of us are mind readers, so just ask, and really listen.

Ask things like:

  • ‘is this what you want?’
  • ‘is this ok?’
  • ‘do you want to keep going?’

If they consent, you will hear things like ‘yes! Keep going.’

But if they say:

  • ‘no’
  • ‘can we slow down?’
  • ‘I guess, if you want to …’

Or if they don’t say anything at all

Stop. Just stop.

Legally, consent can’t exist if it’s not communicated by words or actions.

A no, means there is no consent.

So talk to your partner.

Check in.

Anyone can change their mind.

If your partner withdraws consent, and you keep going …

It stops being sex.

And it becomes rape or assault.

Because no one owes you sex. And everyone has always has the right to say no.

It doesn’t matter:

  • how much you want it
  • what they’re wearing
  • if they’ve had sex with you before
  • or if they’ve had sex with other people before.

Consent isn’t just a box that you tick. It’s part of having sex.

It’s not that complicated.

You just need to ask.

Because without consent it stops being sex.

It’s rape.

And you don’t want to be that person.

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Victoria university has zero tolerance for sexual assault and harassment.

These contact points can help if you need help for yourself or someone else.

Sexual assault crisis support and counselling (24 hours) 1800 806 292 www.sacl.com.au

Victoria University safer community program (03) 9919 5707 vu.edu.au/safer-community

Victoria University counselling service (03) 9919 5400

Western region centre against sexual assault (03) 9216 0444 www.westcasa.org.au

National sexual assault domestic violence service 1800 737 7321800 respect.org.au

Victoria Police Socit (sexual offence and child abuse investigation teams) (03)9216 0566

For immediate assistance, call the police by phoning 000

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Thanks to Monash University safer community unit for the use of this video