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Consent is the most important part of sex, because without consent, it isn’t sex.
It’s rape or sexual assault.
You and your partner must agree that you both want to have sex.
Both of you have to be totally up for it.
You can’t bully, trick, pressure or threaten someone into consenting.
And if someone’s drunk, asleep or passed out...
... They can’t legally give consent at all.
You need to get consent every time you have sex. None of us are mind readers, so just ask, and really listen.
Ask things like:
- ‘Is this what you want?’
- ‘Is this ok?’
- ‘Do you want to keep going?’
If they consent, you’ll hear things like ‘Yes! Keep going.’
But if they say:
- ‘Can we slow down?’
- ‘I guess, if you want to’
- Or if they don’t say anything at all
Stop. Just stop.
Legally, consent can’t exist if it’s not communicated by words or actions.
A no, means there is no consent.
So talk to your partner.
Anyone can change their minds.
If your partner withdraws consent, and you keep going.
It stops being sex.
And it becomes rape or assault.
Because no one owes you sex. And everyone has the right to say no.
It doesn’t matter:
- how much you want it.
- What they’re wearing.
- If they’ve had sex with you before.
- Or if they’ve had sex with loads of other people before.
Consent isn’t just a box you tick. It’s part of having sex.
It’s not that complicated.
You just need to ask.
Because without consent it stops being sex.
And you don’t want to be that person.
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Respect. Now. Always.
Victoria University has zero tolerance for sexual assault and harassment.
We want you to be safe from sexual assault and harassment, so if you or someone you know, needs help, here’s who you can call:
- Police 000 (triple zero)
- Campus Security +61 3 9919 6666.
For support and assistance contact:
- Victoria University Safer Community unit
+61 3 9919 5707
- Victoria University Counselling service
+61 3 9919 5400
- National Sexual Assault Domestic Violence Service
1800 737 732